Abortion Must End

I clearly remember the day in 1973 when my mom told me that the Supreme Court voted to make abortion legal, the law of the land, in the Roe v. Wade decision. I was too young to fully appreciate the import of what was happening, but my young mind was willing to accept what my trusted parent was telling me:  This was good news because now women wouldn’t be forced to have “back-alley” abortions performed with coat hangers by some dirty thief disguised as a doctor.  My mother and those like her, in turn, trusted people like Bernard Nathanson, one of the founders of NARAL, who in an authoritative way, tried to lessen the ugliness by declaring that “it” is not a baby but a blob of cells for the first trimester. So, since the “problem” was not even a baby, the concern had only to do with the women and their safety. At the time, that was how the concept was sold – to protect women, especially those who had been victims of rape or incest. Very little thought was given to the baby because it wasn’t even considered a baby, anyway.

My mother was born the year the stock market crashed, at the beginning of the Great Depression, in 1929.  Even though she grew up working – always jobs that paid less since she was a woman – it was normal for a married female of this generation to stay at home with her children and dedicate her life to her family. Women of this generation were starting to get used to hearing a lot about how dissatisfying it was to “just” be a homemaker, that getting out in the work force made much greater use of their intelligence and ability, plus it was so much more enjoyable.  Why wouldn’t they want to join the men? Of course, these same women, or at least the people pushing this agenda, must have been ignoring the well-known statistic of the day that men had much shorter life spans than women and a much greater frequency of heart attacks. Instead, the peace and economic prosperity which followed World War II gave women the luxury of time to decide that they were bored and that there had to be a better way.  This, in turn, led to women seeking employment, and thus daycare. At first, this was mostly because of feminism, but in recent years, many women are working out of necessity.

Concurrently, single women were being fed a load of garbage disguised as filet mignon when they bought into the concept of being sexually liberated, so they could be just like men. The thinking at the time was “Why shouldn’t I be free to explore my sexuality, since men do?” When I was in college in the late 70’s to early 80’s, it was becoming more and more common for women to have multiple sex partners, just like their male counterparts. The concept was that men would have sex with as many people as possible because they liked it, needed it, it made them happy, and so on. The message to women was, “Why not you, too? It feels good, you’ll like it, and if men can, why can’t you?” Some say that the development and availability of the birth control pill is what really led to the so-called “sexual revolution.”

There is a connection here and it has a common bottom line:  Like everything else, money is steering this machine. Women, not men, are the ones who lost the most in the so-called sexual revolution.  They were the ones targeted by the (mostly) men who saw possibilities and dollar signs.  Companies that had anything to do with sex profited. Drug companies, condom manufacturers, sex toy and lingerie companies, and eventually, the abortion industry. Abortion became readily available and not just a “last resort” for victims of rape and incest. Now, any woman could have access to a “safe” and “sterile” abortion.

I’ve had two friends who had abortions, one while we were still in college and the other one a few years later.  I am not friends with either of these women anymore, not by my choice, but because we drifted apart, as time and distance can cause to happen. I also think that they might want to keep their abortions a secret, and fill their lives with as many people as possible who know nothing of this dark past.

The reason I just referred to the past as “dark” is because these abortions devastated my friends. These were not even conservative or religious young women and they were devastated! Ripping a baby out of a mother’s womb is, at its very essence, completely and utterly antithetical to the way a woman is made. Women are made to be nurturers. Whether you are a Christian who believes that God created everything and made men and women to complement each other, or you believe that we are animals who respond to our environment in ways that have biological and chemical patterns, you still must agree that women are almost always the ones who nurture. We feel a baby grow inside us, we give birth, nurse, feed, tend to sick ones, put bandages on scraped knees. We are still the ones that wounded soldiers cry out for on the battlefield.

Abortion is completely and utterly antithetical to the way women are designed.  The womb is supposed to be the safest place on earth. It is a shelter for a tiny human.  It was not designed to be forcefully opened and the tiny person ripped out, as though it is a piece of garbage.

Why have women gone along with this? Why are women weak followers? Why did they buy into all this sexual revolution nonsense? Who does it benefit? Women love the attention they get from the men who want to have sex with them, but who is really benefitting? The men, of course. They get to unzip it, have some fun and hopefully not get a disease, but if the woman gets pregnant, is the man really in trouble? He can just change his phone number and address if he doesn’t want to be found. In the meantime, the woman might be stuck with an unplanned pregnancy. No worries, though, because not so many years after Roe v. Wade, abortion became a big money-making industry. Planned Parenthood, founded by racist Margaret Sanger, even managed to get money from the workforce via taxation. So, even if you object to abortion, you are still forced to help fund it with your tax dollars. As an aside, if you don’t already know that Margaret Sanger hated blacks, Jews, the handicapped, large families, and who knows who else, just do a little research. The evidence is easy to find. One quote that I can’t forget is that she said (paraphrased), “The kindest thing a large family can do to its youngest member (i.e. another fetus) is to abort it.” Her thinking was that people who have large families are stupid and can’t take care of their already existing members, so it’s kinder to kill the newest one in order to better provide for the others. This thinking – whether or not a pregnancy is convenient – has become the underlying message espoused by the abortion industry at this time.

Back to my old friends:  I remember the one girl, telling me that she was pregnant (alone and afraid, of course) and that she would have to get an abortion. She was in torment, sheer torment. I still remember the call from my other friend when she first told me that her boyfriend wanted her to have an abortion. She really didn’t want to, and I think she was hoping that he would propose. He didn’t, but instead paid or helped pay for her to abort their 13-week-old fetus. I will never forget the call I got after the abortion. She was devastated to find out that her baby was older than she had thought, which made the whole thing a lot worse in her mind. I tried to comfort and console, but nothing helped. I have lost touch with both of these friends.

What would I tell them now? First, I wonder if they still secretly grieve and wonder what that child would be like, thinking about how old he or she would be now, whether they’d be married and about to start their own families, and so on. The reason I wonder is because there are two ways I would respond and it depends first on their attitude. If they are still suffering, I would try to comfort. The reason is because if they are still suffering, then they know that what they did was wrong, and not just wrong as in making a huge mistake and getting fired from your job. Wrong as in killing your own child. Killing your parents’ own grandchild. That’s what abortion is – plain and simple. I believe that there is true forgiveness available when one acknowledges their need for the Savior, and in turn, there is true comfort. Not that anything is changed – the facts are still there – but there is forgiveness and there can and should be healing after forgiveness. If you, dear reader, find yourself in these words, take comfort. You must forgive yourself if you have trusted in Christ because He already paid the price for all of your sins. And if God can forgive you, who are you to not then forgive yourself? You are not greater than God.

Abortion is evil and it must end. I, frankly, don’t believe that there is ever an acceptable time to have an abortion. Even babies who are conceived in rape or incest deserve a chance to live. Adoption is a beautiful choice and should be considered seriously if the mother is unable to care for and raise the child.